This is a term I’ve been hearing quite a bit recently. Stay in your lane. I think there are nicer ways to put this; but this week? I like it! I have a neighbor who reported me to the HOA for the artificial turf that I put in my courtyard. Now they didn’t mean to actually report me in a bad way! They actually said they thought it looked good. Well, one thing led to another and now I’m being demanded to remove it. There is no odor. It’s very well kept up. It’s my private, small courtyard area. But here we are!
The whole week of events have made me wonder…why are we so concerned about what other people do if it has no negative impact on us? We seem to be in a society where everyone is blaming someone else…even though we all have so much of our own stuff that we need to work on. It seems like we need something to be angry about. To get mad at over. Or to get in a fight with. I don’t know what is happening, but the energy has got to change! Somehow, we need to learn about staying in our lane and worrying about ourselves. Our property. Our lives. If I take care of my property, my area and my life? That should be enough! Instead, we are told that we have to be just the same as everyone around us…or else!
I don’t think any of us do things the same way. And I don’t believe we need to do things the same way. I don’t think one way wrong and one way right. It’s not a black or white issue. I love that we don’t all have yards that look the same! I love that we all have different opinions and skills! I love that we are all so unique! Hell, I don’t want to be like the city Camozotz from a Wrinkle in Time! A town where everyone is scared to do things differently. Everything looks the exact same. Everyone mows their lawn at the exact same time. That sounds awful! Looking at all the differences we have in tastes and styles and work styles? That all makes things way more colorful. Sometimes even entertaining!
I personally am one of those people who absolutely loves to learn from others! I love to learn new ways and ideas. I actually feel like I grow so much as a person when I am open to learning from others. And I know I’m not alone here. When you’re willing to listen, to learn and to grow from other people’s lessons, you just become a fuller, more interesting individual. I also love to celebrate other people’s amazing talents! One of my friends owns a ballroom dance studio. I LOVE to dance! Can I do it well? Not really. Am I jealous at the way she glides so eloquently across the floor? Not at all! I absolutely love watching her and her amazing, unique talent! I recognize that I have talents that are different from hers. And if I wasn’t able to watch and enjoy her dancing? Man! I would be missing out! And probably be living a very miserable life! Seeing others thrive in their element completely fills my heart.
Why are people so resistant to learn from others? Why are we so concerned if others do things different from us? Why are we so fast to point out their faults, sometimes not even realizing that we have our own faults? And it’s my personal opinion that I have way too many of my own faults to work on, then to sit and nit-pick others for things that have absolutely no effect on me. I’m too busy working on myself to judge what others do in their own time. Too busy trying to improve myself and all that is in my “lane”.
I take stay in your own lane as this…focus on bettering yourself. Working on yourself, your craft, your mind, body and your spirit. Can you imagine what this world would be like if we all did that? Being our best self and showing up as our best self? Working our butts off to be better in all these areas of our lives?
So, I must ask…are you judging what others do, and ignoring working on faults of your own? Or are you staying in your own lane, working to make your space and your lane, the cleanest and prettiest it can be? Or are you jumping into other’s lanes, trying to run them off the road? Don’t do it! Focus on being the best you possible. Who knows? Those that you think are wrong, may follow your leadership…you might be surprised!