I was listening to an audio book called “The Happiness Project” by Gretchen Rubin. Great book with awesome ideas! I’m going to definitely be trying some I never have. My favorite was talking about how having close female friends is one of the most important things for women to find happiness. The study went on to talk about how women are able to talk about deeper issues and actually want to have those conversations. Many men are more about surface conversations. Not all! But often women (me for sure!) want to talk through deep issues they are facing. And they want people who will listen as they talk about those. Like, really listen!
I have always truly valued my female friendships and female groups. I have always had close women friendships. And I think those friendships got me through moments of hardness without making decisions which could have seriously led me down a bad path. With Covid I joined a group called Women, Wine and Worship and it’s been absolutely amazing! I have made wonderful connections and cannot wait until I get the opportunity to actually meet these ladies in person! For me, it is absolutely true that the deeper friendships I have with other women, the happier and more confident I feel in my everyday life.
I received a text after one of our meetings from a new member of the group. She said she knew it might sound weird, but she felt like we had a lot in common and was wondering if we could do a social distance meetup. I didn’t find the text weird at all and actually was so excited to meet someone new! I’ve been super isolated! Low and behold we became close friends very fast, as she was right…we are basically the same person, but she has brown hair I don’t. But we are both feisty, fiery and opinionated. Oh, and super funny! I have asked her to come on my podcast as a co-host. I want to blow it up! I have a lot of projects on my vision board I’m ready to begin and finish. It’s fun to actually have direction and now a partner in crime! I also have someone who listens to the spicy little things in my life that others might not care to listen to! That’s one of the most fun parts of girlfriends! Telling them your deepest, darkest secrets! And it’s even better when they tell you there’s right back!
I think it’s so important to have a tribe of uplifting people in your life. Men and women. Your tribe loves you, warts and all and always has your back. But make no mistakes! They will also be honest if they see something that is hurting you. They help you to grow. They help you in your hours of darkness. They make your belly hurt with laughter as well! Your tribe is made up of healthy, well rounded people. And many times, you’ll see that they all offer you something different in our life that the others can’t offer.
I have my girlfriend who I have known for 40 years! We met when we were only 2 years old! We are completely opposite. I call her the Yin to my Yang. She is incredibly responsible. Then there’s me! She’s the one I usually call before making a bad decision so she knows where to find the body just in case! She always wanted to be married with kids. I had no interest in that and ended up moving to Hollywood. We lost touch over the years but always came back to right where we left off. She moved back to CO before I did, and when I moved back, our friendship flourished. Until Covid, her kids thought I actually lived at their house as I was over almost every night. Her husband calls me his football wife. Her entire family is my family. From her parents, to her brother-in-law and sister, to their families! It’s such a great crew and I call them my Denver family! I feel like with strong friendships, that’s just what happens. You want to share your life with those closest to you.
There are so many women that just are not comfortable in friendships with other women. I cherish all my relationships, but especially my friendships with women. We all build each other up and also keep one another accountable. Good women friends are proud of each other and the accomplishments each make. There is no jealousy and if there is, we talk about it. Honestly though? I can’t remember the last time I was jealous of a bestie or felt they were jealous of me. Many of my women friends are married with kids and we just have different lives. But we are always so proud of each other in our different accomplishments! It’s so amazing to me! I think women that are jealous of other women need to evaluate why. Having women as close friendships is one of the most important things we can bring to our life. I get excited with each new close friendship I form. Not all of my friendships with women are super tight. But I do surround myself with positive, kind and encouraging women. Oh, and ladies who make me laugh lol. Things that are so important for all of us in our lives! Find your happiness! And your tribe of women! You’ll never regret it! Show me your girls!